This blog introduces you to my special brand of BIKE. I show you how to find your Best self, access your Inner strength, tune in to your Killer instincts, and use your Expressive voice. It's inspiring, spiritual, quirky, and it's all in your head. It's about ATTITUDE, not exercise, though that might be a side benefit.

Thursday, January 21, 2016

A baiku book in the works

Rode sixty miles
Uphill was nothing but slow
It seemed all uphill

Remember these little poems? I've posted them here every now and then. Does the May blogathon rink a bell? That's when a whole gang of us writers have shared our haiku poems. Me? I write a different kind. It's called baiku, found as #baiku on Twitter, where I'm known as @bikelady. It's poetry for the bicycle enthusiast. That's me!

I've composed enough baiku now to fill a few books. So I wrote one. I pulled about 50 of these fun poems together, added some backstory about my BIKE story and information about the poetry, included writing prompts and space so readers can write their own poems, and there you have it...a book. It's done!

I'm now beginning the challenging and lengthy process to get it published. Please spread the word. And when it's out, I hope you'll buy a copy. I assure you, it will be fun, inspiring, quirky--a good read worth sharing.

Expect the best!

Friday, June 12, 2015

Clearing the dust bunnies

Pardon the dust. It's been so long since my last post, I almost forgot how to log in.

Luckily, I remembered the password, and here I am. Back on the page.

Just wanted to let you know I'm going to be posting about something called Slow Bike Travel over the course of the next few months, as I make plans to create a new blog about the Slow Bike Movement. Only I'll be focusing on travel.

If you don't know much about Slow Bike Travel, I'll tell you that it's purely about the ride. It's about the love of the ride. Just riding for the sake of riding. Whether it's to get to work, for recreation, or just to relax, the Slow Bike Ride is all about enjoyment. If you love to ride, hop on your bike. You don't have to dress in any particular style of clothing. You don't have to have the right shoes. You don't have to have a specific kind of bike. Any bike will do.

And it's most certainly not about racing.

The Slow Bike Movement is simply about the ride.

Slow Bike Travel, from my perspective, is about the places where you can enjoy that ride.

So my purpose in covering the movement and its related attractions is to help you find out where you can enjoy the ride, too.

Stay tuned! 

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

The Prescription for Pain is Compassion

I know your first inclination after hearing about yet another shooter on the loose this week, that is, if he hadn't been dead already: Kill the bastard!

Mine? Compassion.

The reason? Pain.

When I woke up yesterday morning, like you, to the news about the shooting at Navy Yard, I posted on my Facebook page that there's "too much pain in the world." Aaron Alexis is yet another example of that. Yes, of course, he's just caused so much more. No dispute there. But what can we do about it?

No pills, please. There's just one answer that I can see: Pray for compassion. Don't make this a religious thing. Make it a human thing. We had a life who'd been hurting for a long, long time. A news report today says Alexis had exhibited signs of mental illness in his early 20s. He had even complained of hearing voices and may have shown signs of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) after 9/11; he may have taken part in rescue efforts. Several arrests followed. More than a decade later, the young man was still crying out for help, but who heard him enough to help him?

This is why stories like this drive me crazy. Here, we have a young man who was voicing his own concerns about his mental health. He was acting out, most likely cries for help. He was exhibiting behavior that, in totality, clearly shows a man in trouble and in need. Yet, he didn't find the help he needed. Why the hell not?

Can we please use this latest example of horror as the impetus to reach out. Could our government please step up with more mental health care coverage? Could our mental health experts please continue to educate us how we can recognize a person in pain and what can we do to help? Can we please teach our children that it's okay to speak up when hurting -- even if it has to do with how you feel? Can we please, now, make it okay for anyone to ask for help? And can be please find a way to provide it?

So many questions with no clear answers. And now we have so many more lives destroyed because, once again, we've failed. We've failed to recognize the growing mental health concerns our nation faces. We've failed to see the importance of funding mental health. We've failed to appreciate the need for more awareness programs regarding mental illness. And we just do not understand mental anguish at all.

If I were the one making the rules, I'd require everyone from age 15 and on to sit once a year inside a courthouse to observe. You would be surprised that the majority of cases a judge hears every day involve young men -- and women -- usually repeat offenders, in need of mental health care or drug intervention. Some of them, like Alexis, hear voices. Some of them, like Alexis, will gain access to a weapon. And who knows what will happen next?! But it might just happen in your hometown. Dare I say what you might suffer then? Were we able to require annual visits to the court house to see what really goes on inside our justice system, it might be a steady reminder of what you don't want. Maybe you'd get a clear idea of what we need to put in place. Jail time and prison time don't seem to be the answer to this kind of pain.

We have to find a way to build a more compassionate world -- one in which we reach out to the people in our community, one in which we don't look the other way. We're in need of understanding. We're in need of being heard. People are not listening to each other.

So maybe people in pain don't do the greatest job of expressing themselves. Maybe they're not clear enough. So don't look to their words to hear the pleas. Look in their expressionless eyes, at the way they carry themselves with drooping shoulders or a slower pace than normal. Look at the way they live, in a state of overwhelm. If their cries, especially the unexpressed, aren't heard, it's going to naturally turn to anger. Months? Years? If they go on unheard, that's an awful lot of boxed-up feelings. You must know, eventually, that box will open. Then out comes another Navy Yard. Only it just might be your yard.

So let's not just pop a pill in the box or turn the other cheek. Pills are a band-aid and ignorance isn't bliss in this case. If anything should be killed, it's the pain. There's too damn much pain in the world, and we can kill it with compassion. Let's start there.

Friday, March 8, 2013

Do men care about connection?

I think the worst thing in the world is to be disconnected from yourself and your environment. ~Venus Nicolino in "LA Shrinks" on Bravo TV
The second I posted this quote on my Facebook page today, I was surprised to see two immediate "Likes." Why? Because they were posted by men. So, happily surprised would more closely match how I felt. Reason being: I don't always think of men in this way. In past personal relationships with male partners, half the time I haven't felt like they even understand the word, let alone agree that it's important.

If they have been connected, it's been with their jobs or their cars or their drinking buddies, but not to me or to our environment. At least, not all the time. I'd more likely noticed a disconnect.

So this was a heartening revelation to me. It reminds me to let go of gender biases. It's just like my boyfriend tells me, "I don't speak for all men. And they don't speak for me." Men, in general, are no different than women. They feel, think and believe just as women feel, think and believe. Maybe not in the exact same way, but, clearly -- I've been enlightened -- they do care about connection.

When I posted that quote this morning, I must admit, I was expecting my girlfriends to agree, but I wasn't thinking my guy friends would care one way or the other -- or notice the quote at all.

If the worst thing in the world is to be disconnected from yourself and your environment, a reverse quote might read that the best thing in the world is to disconnect from your biases. At least, that's what happened to me this morning. I have been schooled. So, thanks guys. And I mean that literally. 

Saturday, March 2, 2013

What life lessons have you learned?

Here's one of mine:
Obstacles aren't meant to stop you; they're meant to strengthen you.